“Your aversion to some people may actually be your response to fear that specific qualities you see in them also exist within you.”
As much as most of us wish we could exist in harmony with the people we encounter throughout our lives, there will always be individuals we dislike, and there will be those individuals who dislike us. Some simply rub us the wrong way while others strike us as deliberately unaware. We may judge others as too mean or abrasive for us to interact with them comfortably. Yet no person should be deemed a villain because their beliefs, opinions, mannerisms, and mode of being are not compatible with your own. You need not embrace the rough traits they have chosen to embody. There may be times in which the best course of action involves distancing yourself from someone you dislike. But circumstances may require that you spend time in the company of individuals who awaken your aversion. In such cases, you can ease your discomfort by showing your foe loving compassion while examining your feelings carefully.
The reasons we dislike some individuals are often complex and, at first, indecipherable. Often, we are automatically averse to people who are different because they compel us to question our values, spirituality, culture, and ideologies, threatening to undermine our self-assurance. Realistically, however, those you dislike have no power to weaken your life’s foundations. In fact, your aversion to specific individuals may actually be your response to your own fear that the specific qualities you see in them also exist within you. Their presence may force you to face internal issues you would rather not confront. If you meet someone who inspired an intense, largely negative response in you, ask yourself WHY your reaction is so laden with powerful emotions. Remember that YOU control your feelings and, if necessary, you can minimize this individual’s impact on your well-being by choosing how you will respond to them.
Personally, I can deeply relate to this subject on a core level. All my life there have been people I do not like one bit, and there have also been those who seem to despise me in every way. In the past this knowing would absolutely crush me emotionally, yet I have learned that most individuals with a strong personality tend to clash with one another. Someone always wishes to dominate the other but I choose to rebuke this knowing and create a new way of living. There is something very special in our ability to recognize that we simply may not be compatible with some people, and that’s OK! We may never achieve a shared harmonious relationship with those we dislike, but we can nonetheless learn to modulate our reactions to these individuals and, ultimately, to coexist peacefully with them.
HOW DO YOU COPE WITH INDIVIDUALS YOU FEEL DISLIKE YOU ??
I pray that you witness your reflection as I stand firmly in my ability to LOVE MYSELF.
Infinite Love – Infinite Light – Infinite Possibilities ♾
Kat Von Greye – Founder of Born2fly Academy